So many in the world today lead lives of quiet and not-so-quiet desperation as the personal and planetary consequences of humanity's discontents become increasingly self-evident.
From the personal to the institutional, everywhere we look, it seems that the establishments, systems and structures that we used to rely on are shifting, crumbling, and collapsing, causing many to wonder if we have arrived at the end of the world as we know it.
Business (or politics, economics, religion, education) as usual is not sustainable, or even desirable anymore.
Humanity needs an ethics upgrade.
Just being honest, nice, or right is not good enough in a world that needs us to be true, kind, and fair.
Now, more than ever, the world needs wise, compassionate, powerful human beings who refuse to accept looking good as a substitute for actually being and doing good.
We need people who are better prepared to address the challenges of living in a world that increasingly shreds our notions of normalcy.
We need leaders who are willing and able to face inconvenient truths, welcome unwelcome others, and (re)negotiate the terms of how we live, work, and play together for a better future.
Integrity Dynamics is a practical approach for navigating the uncertainty, complexity, and urgency of our times with greater integrity.
It’s a reliable, scalable process for aligning who we are, how we feel, and what we do in any given context with the integral wisdom, compassion, and power that is always available to us, but not always self-evident in our day-to-day experience.
✓ Discover the 3 core dynamics & 3 universal dimensions of human experience that are the basis for integrity.
✓ Develop a new, more holistic understanding of yourself, your relationships, and life conditions through multidimensional inquiry.
By systematically training ourselves to pay attention to what’s happening in our lives from a perspective of wholeness, we begin to experience ourselves, each other, and the world more wholly/holy—completely and reverently.
✓ Explore 6 attentional practices that deepen your capacity to respond intelligently to ignorance, suffering, and conflict.
So we’re not denying the more troublesome aspects of our experience—this is not flight into light—but developing our capacity to be wiser, more compassionate, and more powerful in how we deal with these.
Integrity Dynamics helps us face reality as it is just as we are while exploring the real possibility of creating something different, navigating the gaps between what is and what could be, who we are and who we aspire to be, how we are and how we want to be, what we do and what we really need to do for a better experience of ourselves, each other, and the world.
What is integrity?
- awareness of the essential wholeness within, between, and all around us.
- action in service of the greatest good for ourselves, each other, and the world.
When we think about integrity, most of us tend to think about it in terms of being honest, or aligning our values or intentions with our actions—say what we mean, mean what we say, walk our talk. While this is part of integrity, integrity is really about being whole.
Integrity is honoring the essential wholeness within, between, and all around us—the integrity of ourselves as individuals inhabiting unique bodyminds in relationship with each other given the conditions of our existence.
It’s living with an awareness of our interdependence—that who I am, how I feel, and what I do relates to who you are, how you feel, and what you do, and that who we are, how we feel, and what we do together contributes to what’s happening in the state of our world—our relationships, institutions, communities, and planet as a whole.
It’s a commitment to understanding what’s true not just from our own perspective, but from multiple points of view. It’s a commitment to being kind even to those we don’t particularly like or understand. It’s a commitment to doing what’s right or fair, even when it’s inconvenient and uncomfortable.
With awareness comes the responsibility to act accordingly.
Because it's not enough to know better. We also have to do better.
We must become the best of who we are to address the worst of who we are.
Integrity is intentionally, consistently, and adaptively serving the greatest good as best we can as much as possible for ourselves, each other, and the world.
When we think of people lacking integrity, scam artists, shady salesmen, and corrupt politicians usually come to mind.
However, we are all integrity challenged at times.
Even when we are committed to living in integrity, none of us is able to be true, kind, and fair to everyone in every situation all of the time. Our lives are fraught with habitual patterns of fragmentation that significantly undermine our ability to live in integrity. Sometimes, it is challenging to figure out what is true, kind, or fair. Even if we know, we don't always have the capacity to enact it.
We all have integrity gaps—particular moods, relationships, and situations—that compromise our integrity.
Chances are that you have experienced more than a few of these situations:
- Advocated for a decision (or candidate) using only the facts that support your point of view.
- Went along to get along against your better judgment.
- Taken on a project because you didn't feel comfortable voicing your objections.
- Failed to keep a secret.
- Called in sick when you were really playing hooky.
- Exaggerated about your experience, or expertise.
- Broke a promise to yourself or someone else.
- Remained silent when co-workers or friends gossiped about someone.
- Neglected to care about a group of people because they were born under a foreign flag, speak a different language, or voted for another candidate.
- Jumped to a faulty conclusion based on unchecked assumptions.
- Misjudged someone based on hearsay.
- Avoided someone's calls, or disregarded texts/email messages.
- Used products that are produced in unethical ways.
- Refused to apologize or admit a mistake.
- Said "yes" to a social engagement because you didn't want to hurt someone's feelings or you felt obligated.
- Taken more credit (or blame) than you deserve for something.
- Complained about others to a friend or colleague instead of speaking directly to those involved.
Living in integrity is often uncomfortable and inconvenient. It is also liberating and necessary. When we live in integrity, we are wiser, more compassionate, more powerful. We make better choices that lead to better better outcomes.
Notice, that I said “better,” which is not necessarily easier, but always infinitely wiser, more compassionate, and more powerful.
When we greet our struggles with integrity, our struggles teach us how to be better human beings. We greet the full spectrum of human experience—the good, the bad, and the truly tragic—with greater clarity, equanimity, and courage.
Many of us tend to think that people either have integrity or they don’t, but the reality is that we all have it and we don’t. Integrity is not an end-state, but an ongoing process of responding holistically and dynamically to evolving circumstances.
When we’re living in integrity, we’re able to be fluent and fluid with reality. We move in and out of integrity depending on our ability to be with the whole of what is happening in the moment. Integrity is a holistic and dynamic way of seeing and being. Cultivating this capacity usually requires commitment and capacity-building.
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