Integrity Dynamics: Living Integrity
What would the world be like if we realized the integrity at the heart of our humanity? What if we could actualize the positively wise, compassionate, and powerful aspects of who we are no matter what the circumstances? What if we could create the conditions to catalyze these in others?
- awareness of the essential wholeness within, between, and all around us.
- action in service of the greatest good for ourselves, each other, and the world.
So many in the world today lead lives of quiet and not-so-quiet desperation as the personal and planetary consequences of humanity's discontents become more and more self-evident.
Now, more than ever, the world needs wise, compassionate, powerful human beings who refuse to accept looking good as a substitute for actually being and doing good.
What is integrity?
When we think about integrity, most of us tend to think about it in terms of being honest, or aligning our values or intentions with our actions—mean what we say, do what we say, walk our talk. While this is part of integrity, the integrity that we explore in Integrity Dynamics is more comprehensive.
So what is integrity in the context of Integrity Dynamics?
Integrity is honoring the essential wholeness within, between, and all around us—the integrity of ourselves as individuals inhabiting unique bodyminds in relationship with each other given the conditions of our existence.
It’s a commitment to understanding what’s true not just from our own perspective, but from multiple points of view. It’s a commitment to being kind even to those we don’t particularly like or understand. It’s a commitment to doing what’s right or fair, even when it’s inconvenient and uncomfortable.
Integrity is intentionally, consistently, and adaptively serving the greatest good as best we can as much as possible for ourselves, each other, and the world.
When we think of people lacking integrity, often corrupt politicians, shady salesmen, and unethical financiers come to mind, but most of us are integrity-challenged more often than we think because none of us is able to be truthful, kind, and fair to everyone in every situation all the time. Particular moods, relationships, or circumstances challenge our ability to act with more integrity.
Our lives are often fraught with habitual patterns of fragmentation that significantly undermine our ability to fully understand, accept, and express the whole of who we are, how we feel, and what is really happening.
Chances are that you have experienced more than a few of these situations:
- Said "yes" to a social engagement because you didn't want to hurt someone's feelings or you felt obligated.
- Taken on another project at work because you didn't feel comfortable voicing your objections.
- Advocated for a decision (or candidate) using only the facts that support your point of view.
- Remained silent when co-workers or friends gossiped about someone.
- Called in sick when you were really playing hooky.
- Taken more credit than you deserve for something.
- Exaggerated about your experience, expertise, or accomplishments.
- Given the contract to someone you know instead of someone more deserving.
- Ignored someone trying to get your attention.
- Avoided someone's calls or disregarded texts/email messages instead of addressing a situation.
- Complained about someone to a friend or colleague instead of speaking directly with the person involved.
- Failed to follow through on something that you promised to do.
- Blamed someone or something instead of admitting your mistake.
- Went along to get along against your better judgment
Living in integrity is often uncomfortable and inconvenient. It is also liberating and necessary. When we live in integrity, we are wiser, more compassionate, more powerful. We make better choices that lead to better outcomes.
Notice, that I said “better,” which is not necessarily easier, but always infinitely wiser, more compassionate, and more powerful.
What is Integrity Dynamics?
Integrity Dynamics is a practical approach for understanding and navigating our experience of ourselves, each other, and the world with greater integrity. It’s a process for realizing who we are, how we feel, and what to do in any given context by connecting us with the integral wisdom, compassion, and power that is always available to us, but not always self-evident in our day to day experience.
The approach consists of a:
A map of 3 core dynamics that affect our ability to have more integrity in our lives.
3-part inquiry—a set of questions—that results in a more complete understanding of ourselves, our relationships, and life situations.
It’s a way of training ourselves to pay attention to what’s happening in our lives from a perspective of wholeness that with practice leads us to experience ourselves, each other, and the world more wholly/holy—completely and reverently.
6 attentional practices that deepen our capacity to hold the ignorance, suffering, and conflict in our lives with greater wisdom, compassion, and power.
So we’re not denying the more troublesome aspects of our experience—this is not flight into light—but developing our capacity to be wiser, more compassionate, and more powerful in how we deal with these. When we bring more wisdom, compassion, and power to our struggles, our struggles teach us how to be better human beings. We greet the full spectrum of human experience—the good, the bad, and the truly tragic—with greater clarity, equanimity, and courage.
So why does Integrity Dynamics matter?
When we are able to hold the pervasive ignorance, suffering, and conflict in our lives with integrity—when we are able to prioritize the wisdom, compassion, and power of our humanity—we contribute to a world of goodness instead of perpetuating a world of suffering.
What is Integrity Dynamics?
Integrity Dynamics is an actively integral approach for realizing and actualizing personal, relational, and situational integrity—awareness of the essential wholeness within, between, and all around us + action in service of the greatest good for ourselves, each other, and the world.
Both a model and a method, Integrity Dynamics consists of an interrelated set of 6 attentional practices applied to 3 core dynamics across 3 universal dimensions of human experience. It is descriptive--illuminating our experience of any given moment, and prescriptive--offering practical means to embrace and engage in the moment, creating the conditions for more enlightened and more embodied ways of being.
Is Integrity Dynamics for you?
If you want to...
- Develop a deeper understanding of yourself, your relationships, and your reality...
- Strengthen your capacity to respond to conflict and suffering—your own and others...
- Cultivate habits of acceptance, empathy, and caring that sustain genuine connection...
- Liberate yourself from habitual responses and outdated modes of being that no longer serve you
- Navigate the uncertainty, complexity, and subtlety of real-life with greater wisdom, compassion, and power...
- Develop greater personal, relational, and situational integrity...
Develop a deeper understanding of who you are and the nature of reality
Explore 2 core practices for cultivating wisdom
Identify the #1 challenge to cultivating wisdom
Think more clearly under pressure
Tap into your essential humanity and original goodness
Nourish the vital, intimate, and resonant connection with your own experience
Cultivate habits of acceptance, empathy, and caring that sustain genuine connection
Strengthen your capacity to be present with suffering—your own and others
Rightsize your relationships with others
Manage your impulses, moods, words, speech, and deeds
Express your truth
Make decisions and take actions consistent with your values
Negotiate mutual agreements and genuine commitments
Deal with conflicts and challenging situations with poise
Learn to ask for what you need
12 weekly interactive live, online discussions in which we will explore key ideas, and clarify critical concepts.
6 Attentional Practices & Framing Questions that you will customize for your own practical purposes.
Integrity Dynamics Practice Guide, a concise, easy-to-use overview of the essential concepts, so you can quickly review and more readily apply these in the moment.
Weekly exercises to help you turn insight into action, reflect and apply your learning to real-life scenarios.
Access to a private online group for your cohort's participants.
In just an hour a week, Karen Sella guides you through Integrity Dynamics, showing you step-by-step how to turn everyday experiences into opportunities for experiencing greater wisdom, compassion, and power.
Faculty: Karen Sella