Integrity Dynamics: An Integrated Approach for Living, Loving, and Leading with Integrity
What would the world be like if we realized the integrity at the heart of our humanity? What if we could actualize the positively wise, compassionate, and powerful aspects of who we are no matter what the circumstances? What if we could create the conditions to catalyze these in others?
- the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles.
- the quality or state of being whole and undivided; the condition of being unified, unimpaired, or sound.
Integrity is the embodiment of wholeness--a realization of the essential wholeness within, between, and all around us that compels us to act in alignment with the truth of who we are and what is really happening.
We all experience circumstances when we are out of integrity. Our lives are often fraught with habitual patterns of fragmentation that significantly undermine our ability to fully understand, accept, and express the whole of who we are, how we feel, and what is happening in our lives.
Integrity Dynamics is a comprehensive, practical approach for navigating the uncertainty, complexity, and subtlety of real-life with greater wisdom, compassion, and power. The approach consists of an interrelated set of 6 attentional practices applied to 3 core dynamics across 3 universal domains of human experience that results in greater personal, interpersonal, and situational integrity.
Personal Integrity: Whole Person
EXPERIENCE YOUR MOST LUMINOUS, SPLENDIFEROUS SELF—THE PERSON THAT YOU ALWAYS, ALREADY ARE, BUT SOMETIMES FORGET TO BE—THE YOU AT THE HEART OF YOUR BEING WHO IS POSITIVELY WISE, COMPASSIONATE, AND POWERFUL.
Personal integrity is knowing, loving, and being who we truly are. It is honoring the whole truth of our experience. People who have personal integrity demonstrate high levels of self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-power. Their thoughts, words, and deeds are in alignment.
When we are out of integrity, we feel inauthentic, insecure, or uncomfortable in our own skins. We have conflicting thoughts and emotions. Our actions are not aligned with our values. Sometimes, this shows up as a niggling sense of dissatisfaction or doubt. Other times, it can manifest as a full-blown crisis of identity in which we feel completely confused or unhappy about who we are. Often, we overindulge or avoid ourselves.
Interpersonal Integrity: Whole Relationships
Interpersonal integrity is knowing, loving, and being who we truly are together. It is the experience of interdependence--that we're in it together even in our differences. There's a sense of belonging that is greater than our differences. It's recognizing our shared humanity and serving the most inclusive "us" in any given moment. The extent to which we can be with one another wholly as we are without compromising our personal integrity and shared humanity is the extent to which our relationship has integrity. Relationships with integrity are characterized by truthfulness, kindness, and fairness.
When we are out of integrity in our relationships, we may feel disingenuous, inhibited, or conflicted. We may find ourselves frequently complaining, criticizing, and blaming. We tend to focus on differences, experiencing an exaggerated sense of me versus you, him/her, or them. We may feel the need to conceal or deny parts of who we are. We may be unable or unwilling to speak the truth about what we think or how we feel. We may avoid certain conversations or situations. We may defer making decisions or taking actions. We may go along to get along, failing to do better even when we know better.
Situational Integrity: Whole Context
Sometimes, we just feel out-of-sync with what's happening. We feel disoriented, overwhelmed, or stuck. Often, there is a distinct sense of wrong time, wrong place with a tendency to dwell on some past or future "then and there" that is responsible for or preferable to the situation here and now. Despite our best efforts, our world has become one big, never-ending obstacle course designed by evil sadists who will delight in our inevitable demise.
Develop a deeper understanding of who you are and the nature of reality
Explore 2 core practices for cultivating wisdom
Identify the #1 challenge to cultivating wisdom
Think more clearly under pressure
Tap into your essential humanity and original goodness
Nourish the vital, intimate, and resonant connection with your own experience
Cultivate habits of acceptance, empathy, and caring that sustain genuine connection
Strengthen your capacity to be present with suffering--your own and others
Rightsize your relationships with others
Manage your impulses, moods, words, speech, and deeds
Express your truth
Make decisions and take actions consistent with your values
Negotiate mutual agreements and genuine commitments
Deal with conflicts and challenging situations with poise
Learn to ask for what you need
12 weekly interactive live, online discussions in which we will explore key ideas, clarify critical concepts, and break these down, so you can effectively integrate the teaching into your life and work.
6 Attentional Practices & Framing Questions that you will customize for your own practical purposes.
Integrity Dynamics Practice Guide, a concise, easy-to-use overview of the essential concepts, so you can quickly review and more readily apply these in the moment.
Weekly exercises to help you turn insight into action, reflect and apply your learning to real-life scenarios.
Access to a private online group for your cohort's participants
In just an hour a week, Karen Sella guides you through Integrity Dynamics, showing you step-by-step how to turn everyday experiences into opportunities for experiencing greater wisdom, compassion, and power.
Faculty: Karen Sella